Struggling to create calm as a highly sensitive person? You’re not alone. Many HSPs find it difficult to manage overwhelming emotions, sensory overload, and the constant need for control. This sensitivity makes it harder to embrace calmness, but with the right tools and techniques, peace is possible.
Self-judgment often acts as an invisible barrier, holding us back from true growth and fulfillment. We tend to criticize ourselves harshly, focusing on our flaws and mistakes instead of our strengths and progress. But what if you could change this narrative?
Are you ready to move beyond anger management and into anger transformation? Learn how to listen to your anger, honor its wisdom, and channel its energy into a more fulfilling life.
Struggling to solve problems in your life or work? I recently learned a powerful lesson from my garden that transformed how I approach challenges. Discover how an ancient gardening practice called ollas helped me shift my mindset and find sustainable solutions. In this blog post, I dive into the neuroscience behind why we get stuck in old patterns and how changing your mindset can unlock new possibilities. Whether you’re looking to create calm, embrace simplicity, or find a better way to solve modern problems, this article is for you.
Over the years, I’ve come across a lot of advice about aligning with natural rhythms—circadian rhythms, Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) clocks, Ayurvedic clocks—you name it. And while these ideas sound beautiful in theory, I’ve found myself increasingly frustrated. They just don’t work for me, and I’m beginning to think they don’t work for many people, especially those of us living with chronic illnesses. So I decided to research them and find out where these clocks came from.
Not that I’m always looking for silver linings (because I feel that’s largely unhelpful) but this time I found one in overcoming people pleasing as a highly-sensitive person. This flare up showed me where my people-pleasing has gotten much more sneaky.
Often when we talk about people pleasing, we think of:
Agreeing to something even though we don’t have the time, energy or mental white space for it
Offering to help even when we didn’t give ourselves a chance to think about it
Bending over backwards to make sure someone else is happy. Even if it comes at the cost of our own wellbeing and mental health
Changing how you show up with a different group of people to fit in (when you go against who you really are in order to feel accepted)
This time, my Inner People-Pleaser was so much more sneaky.Â
The understanding of self-care as transactional often begins in childhood. Whether it’s the subtle cues from family members, societal expectations, or the environments we grow up in, we’re taught that our worth is tied to what we can produce or how we can serve others.
At the end of 2021, I started experiencing extremely high levels of anxiety. With three to four panic attacks a day, things weren’t normal for me. The frustrating thing was that my usual stress management strategies weren’t working.
All or nothing thinking doesn’t just affect our actions; it influences our emotions and self-worth. On days when I felt unable to meet my high standards, I’d spiral into feelings of inadequacy and self-criticism
Typically, when we think about this simplification, we come across the concept of minimalism. However, minimalism may not be quite as effective as essentialism for highly sensitive people.Typically, when we think about this simplification, we come across the concept of minimalism. However, minimalism may not be quite as effective as essentialism for highly sensitive people.