How to Say No: Saying No as a Highly Sensitive High Achiever
Saying “no” is hard, especially for us highly sensitive high achievers. We often find ourselves caught between our people-pleasing and our relentless drive to set goals and achieve them. Keyword
Hidden signs of perfectionism
Perfectionism, contrary to popular belief, isn’t a one-size-fits-all trait. There’s actually two different kinds: overt and covert.
Attachment styles
We all have unique ways of connecting with others, and establishing boundaries (or a lack of boundaries) in relationships. These patterns or attachment styles, which are rooted in our early experiences, play a crucial role in shaping who we are and how we achieve work-life balance… or not and eventually end up burnt out
How to let go of control (when it scares the crap out of you)
Letting go of control isn’t easy for me. And the idea of “surrendering” and “trusting” in some all-knowing being – forget about it.
But, I’ve learned a way that works for me, my traumatized nervous system, and my highly sensitive nature.
If I can learn how to let go of control and surrender, I know you can too.
We just have to start in the right place.
Persistence: Much more effective than willpower and discipline
Willpower – the inner strength to overcome obstacles and achieve goals. I am so grateful for our backyard. We have so many different areas – including a firepit with a built in bench that wraps around it.
Meditation for High Achievers
Meditation is tough, especially when you’re a high achiever. Stay with me while we talk about meditation for high achievers
There, I said it.
I’ve been practicing meditation for almost 20 years and it’s still wickedly hard for me to do.
Gratitude Practice: What I do instead of daily gratitude practice
Objectivity is a core value of mine. So maybe that’s also a reason why I don’t resonate with the typical daily gratitude practice. To me gratitude practice just seems too forced. Too focused on finding a silver lining – which often discounts the struggles we may be facing.
The Secret Behind Effective Burnout Recovery Strategies
When I first learned about burnout I heard it was a stress management problem. Essentially it was too much stress and not enough coping strategies to deal with all that stress. But after my own epic burnout experience, I realized that way of perceiving burnout was wrong. The truth is, burnout is not a stress management problem. It’s an energy management problem. And that completely changes the way we look at burnout recovery strategies.
Trauma Informed Vulnerability
I’ve come to the conclusion that the typical discussion around vulnerability isn’t actually trauma informed or inclusive, and I think that needs to change.
The Art of Setting Boundaries
The typical approach to boundaries – you know, the one that’s all about telling people what you need and then washing your hands of the outcome – might not be serving us as well as we think.
I’m not saying we shouldn’t set boundaries – boundaries themselves are incredibly helpful and necessary if we want to create more calm in our life.
But how we set the boundary is almost as important as the boundary itself.