Self-judgment often acts as an invisible barrier, holding us back from true growth and fulfillment. We tend to criticize ourselves harshly, focusing on our flaws and mistakes instead of our strengths and progress. But what if you could change this narrative?
Are you ready to move beyond anger management and into anger transformation? Learn how to listen to your anger, honor its wisdom, and channel its energy into a more fulfilling life.
The journey to self-discovery is marked by moments of release. Letting go of old identities, we unravel the threads of who we thought we were, and weave a new tapestry of who we’re meant to be
Not that I’m always looking for silver linings (because I feel that’s largely unhelpful) but this time I found one in overcoming people pleasing as a highly-sensitive person. This flare up showed me where my people-pleasing has gotten much more sneaky.
Often when we talk about people pleasing, we think of:
Agreeing to something even though we don’t have the time, energy or mental white space for it
Offering to help even when we didn’t give ourselves a chance to think about it
Bending over backwards to make sure someone else is happy. Even if it comes at the cost of our own wellbeing and mental health
Changing how you show up with a different group of people to fit in (when you go against who you really are in order to feel accepted)
This time, my Inner People-Pleaser was so much more sneaky.
The understanding of self-care as transactional often begins in childhood. Whether it’s the subtle cues from family members, societal expectations, or the environments we grow up in, we’re taught that our worth is tied to what we can produce or how we can serve others.
All or nothing thinking doesn’t just affect our actions; it influences our emotions and self-worth. On days when I felt unable to meet my high standards, I’d spiral into feelings of inadequacy and self-criticism
All or nothing thinking is deeply intertwined with perfectionism. I see this in myself a lot. I often think that if something isn’t done perfectly, or if I’m not able to do it perfectly for whatever reason, it’s not worth doing at all.
Saying “no” is hard, especially for us highly sensitive high achievers. We often find ourselves caught between our people-pleasing and our relentless drive to set goals and achieve them.
Perfectionism, contrary to popular belief, isn’t a one-size-fits-all trait. There’s actually two different kinds: overt and covert.
How to balance priorities. There’s a saying that’s been around for a while on social media. It goes something like “If you think you don’t have time for something, try saying it’s not a priority’ and see how that feels.”