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Over the years, I’ve come across a lot of advice about aligning with natural rhythms—circadian rhythms, Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) clocks, Ayurvedic clocks—you name it. And while these ideas sound beautiful in theory, I’ve found myself increasingly frustrated. They just don’t work for me, and I’m beginning to think they don’t work for many people, especially those of us living with chronic illnesses. So I decided to research them and find out where these clocks came from.
You see, I’ve actively faced and challenged the misunderstandings that have arisen, particularly within my own family, and I’ve grown from those experiences. For most of my life, they haven’t really seen me—the true me. Not that it’s their fault really.
The understanding of self-care as transactional often begins in childhood. Whether it’s the subtle cues from family members, societal expectations, or the environments we grow up in, we’re taught that our worth is tied to what we can produce or how we can serve others.
At the end of 2021, I started experiencing extremely high levels of anxiety. With three to four panic attacks a day, things weren’t normal for me. The frustrating thing was that my usual stress management strategies weren’t working.
All or nothing thinking is deeply intertwined with perfectionism. I see this in myself a lot. I often think that if something isn’t done perfectly, or if I’m not able to do it perfectly for whatever reason, it’s not worth doing at all.
Every day, I try to take a moment for myself—a simple reset, usually outside, where I allow my mind to race freely. It’s like letting a bunch of excited dogs loose in the backyard while I sit still, observing their frenzied energy without getting caught up in it.
We all have unique ways of connecting with others, and establishing boundaries (or a lack of boundaries) in relationships. These patterns or attachment styles, which are rooted in our early experiences, play a crucial role in shaping who we are and how we achieve work-life balance… or not and eventually end up burnt out
Letting go of control isn’t easy for me. And the idea of “surrendering” and “trusting” in some all-knowing being – forget about it.
But, I’ve learned a way that works for me, my traumatized nervous system, and my highly sensitive nature.
If I can learn how to let go of control and surrender, I know you can too.
We just have to start in the right place.