About – Becoming Avery

I didn’t build this space to teach you how to “do life better.”

I built it because I got tired of pretending I was doing fine.

I built it after years of collapsing privately while performing stability in public.

After learning to function in systems that rewarded my resilience but punished my needs.

After trying to fix myself into worthiness, and realizing that maybe the systems were the problem all along.

Becoming Avery isn’t a polished brand.

It’s a conscious undoing.

A reclamation of what’s real beneath what was required.

A place to name what hurts, what’s shifting, and what still needs to be unlearned.

This work isn’t about perfection.

It’s not about staying regulated 100% of the time.
It’s not about finding calm so you can go back to tolerating what’s intolerable.

It’s about learning how to stay human in the middle of the mess.
To meet yourself with clarity when everything feels loud.
To rebuild without erasing what you’ve been through.

Because chaos is inevitable.
But feeling out of control?
That’s not the only way to live.

I’m Avery.

I’m a Canadian-based chaos navigation specialist (a title I gave myself, because none of the others felt honest).

I’m Queer (Pan-Ace). Disabled. Vedic-rooted, logic-forward, and allergic to empty self-help platitudes.
I’ve built programs, apps, and spaces that don’t pretend the world is fair—but help you find your footing in it anyway.

This space isn’t neutral.

It’s built on stolen land, with ongoing commitment to truth and accountability.
It’s Queer-affirming, neurodivergent-welcoming, and
built for the kind of healing that doesn’t rely on performance.

If you’re in the in-between—shedding who you’ve been, not yet sure who you’re becoming—

You’re not alone.

Welcome to the middle.

I may not have a magic ‘fix-it’ wand to wave over you.
But I will walk with you as you find what’s still worth holding.

What shaped this work

Before this space existed, I spent over a decade in the ICU—holding hands in final moments, navigating life-or-death decisions, and learning what real stress does to the body.

The nervous system isn’t a buzzword to me.
It’s something I learned inside-out, in pressure cookers most people never enter.
It’s also what broke me. And what led me here.

My background in nursing taught me how to stay grounded when everything is falling apart.
My training as a patient safety educator showed me how to break complex systems into actionable steps.
And my own breakdowns taught me what none of those certifications ever did:
how to rebuild a life from the inside out.

I’ve trained in Vedic philosophy, somatic therapy, CBT, DBT, ACT, yoga, hypnosis, art therapy, and trauma-informed coaching. Not because I needed more credentials. But because I needed more tools—for myself first, and then for the people who’d one day land here, in the middle of their own undoing.

I don’t promise quick fixes.
I won’t sell you regulation as a destination.
But I do know how to walk with you through the chaos—without bypassing the truth of what you’ve lived through.

That’s what this work is built on.

What brings you here today?

Choose the reflection that lands the hardest right now.

I’ve outgrown who I was told to be.

You’ve been the good kid, the strong one, the dependable one—the version of you that kept the peace or carried the weight.

Now it’s unraveling. Not in a crisis way. In a you-can’t-go-back kind of way.

You’re in the in-between, and you’re ready to figure out who you actually are.

I don’t like who I’ve become—and
I know I’m meant for more.

You’ve been operating in survival mode for so long, you stopped noticing.

The short fuse. The self-judgment. The endless chasing of something that never feels like enough.

Now you’re paying attention. And something deep in you is calling for a reset.

I’m doing great at work, but my personal life feels stuck in a loop.

You’re the reliable one. The one people go to.

But behind the scenes, you’re tired. Disconnected.

Over it.

You’ve built a version of success that looks good on paper but doesn’t feel like home.

I’m rebuilding after burnout, heartbreak, or a major life change.

Something cracked open. Maybe it was sudden, like a breakup, loss or diagnosis. Maybe it was slow, like the kids leaving and the quiet getting too loud.

Either way—you’re asking questions you can’t un-ask now.

And you’re ready to do life differently, from the inside out.

I’ve spent my whole life proving I’m enough. I’m done with that.

You’ve learned the mindset tools. Done the inner work.

But deep down, the voice still whispers: “You’re not doing enough. You’re not there yet.”

You’re ready to dismantle the systems that taught you that lie—and start rebuilding your worth from a place of truth.

I don’t know what I need. I just know something has to change.

You’re exhausted from trying to name it, fix it, figure it out.

You’re tired of clarity being a prerequisite for support.

You don’t have a five-step plan—and you’re not looking for one.

You just know this version of life isn’t it.

See yourself in more than one and can't decide?

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