You have big plans and want to get more out of life, but you keep burning out and crashing, unable to maintain a consistent energy.
You’ve been told you’re ‘too sensitive’ more times than you can count, and you wish you knew how to control your emotions so they wouldn’t ‘get in the way’.
You’re stressed out a lot of the time, and you’re starting to worry about the impact this is having on your health.
You know you’ve learned unhelpful beliefs like perfectionism, taking on too much, and people-pleasing, but don’t know how to get change these beliefs.
You’re very caring and generous with your time and are always there for the people who need you, but this leaves next to no time to take care of yourself.
Your negative self-talk is at an all time high, and you’re finding it harder to move forward and take action on your goals even though they’re important for you.
I was an ICU RN for many years and what I noticed was that the majority of reasons adults found themselves in the ICU were because of illnesses and diseases that could be linked to chronic stress and burnout. I decided to get out of the reactive side of medicine in 2015 and started helping highly-sensitive, high-achievers prevent burnout and reverse the negative health effects of stress.
Although I’ve always been a highly-sensitive, high achiever, I wasn’t born “Avery.” After a life of numerous obstacles, traumas, and stressors, 2018 brought a change so significant and rapid that I no longer felt like the person I used to be. Everything shifted literally overnight and I had no idea who I was anymore – until I decided to change my name.
It’s been a journey (ahem…understatement…) but I have rediscovered who I am and reconnected to my purpose: to live with vulnerability, resilience and compassion so that I can show others what’s possible when they master their stress, emotions, habits and self-talk.
Mastering these skills unlocks our true potential and a lifetime of beautiful possibility.
Your stress response is like a switch, it’s either on or it’s off. You’re either in fight or flight, or you’re in rest and digest. The freeze and fawn responses happen when that switch gets stuck due to nervous system deregulation. Learning how to control this switch and optimize your stress for peak performance is key, and in this part of the Flow State Framework, you’ll learn exactly how to do this.
Your highly-sensitive, high achieving nature has led to strong people pleasing tendencies, both obvious and subtle. This keeps you on the cycle of burnout, being able to keep up with the pace of your life for a short period of time, and then crashing hard, only to recover enough to function and keep going. Rinse and repeat. No, I’m not going to tell you to get up at 5 am (because I would never do that myself) and have a rigid morning routine to create your “miracle morning.” Instead, we create balanced habits and routines that work for your unique nervous system and goals to align and streamline your life.
As a highly-sensitive person, you’ve experienced a lot of emotional abandonment and rejection over your lifetime. This leads to an incredibly strong and vocal Inner Critic that is very fast to speak up, make you feel small, and stop you from making positive changes in your life. Our Inner Critic is really just our Inner Protector, and once you understand their role in protecting you from your emotional trauma you will begin your journey to mastering your self-talk.
Mastering your emotions is very different than numbing or dissociating especially as a highly-sensitive high achiever. In fact, numbing your emotions can be very harmful and dangerous! Instead, mastering your emotions means you’ll be able to notice the emotional reaction without being swept up in it.
I like to think of my emotions as a freight train. When I get triggered or my nervous system gets activated by something whooosh the train zips off with the rush of emotion. When I wasn’t able to master my emotions, it was like I was on the outside of that emotional freight train hanging on for dear life.
Now that I’ve mastered my emotions, however, I still have those emotional freight trains – but instead of being on the train, I’m left standing on the platform. This emotional objectivity allows you to still experience the full range of emotions that come along with being highly-sensitive, but you are in control – not just along for the ride.
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